Today’s Power Skill: Listening to Learn
Ok friends, listen up, today’s skill might be one if the THE most important POWER skill of our 30 Days of Social Connection: Listening to Learn! Why, you might ask? Well, as we explore interpersonal skills, the ablity to listen to not only learn ABOUT but learn FROM others is the foundation to all interactions. Not only will it help with your relationships with friends, parents, teachers and coaches, it is a skill that will help you towards longterm Professional Success as studies show that 85% of a reason a person gets a job, keeps a job or advances in a job is related to his / her people skills. It’s said that people won’t always remember what you’ve said, but they will always remember how you made them feel… and Listening to others makes them feel good.
So, one of the best ways to exercise this skill is to practice in conversations that don’t really interest you. And no time like the present while you are home with parents and siblings. LOL! So let’s practice making the habit of truly engaging with the interest of Listening to Learn!
Listening to Learn:
- And Feedback
are just a few ways that we grow our skills.
Here’s how we listen to learn from our siblings and parents… especially in times when we are bored, irratated or uninterested. START TODAY…
- Check yourself, what physical feelings are you feeling and the non-verbal habits you communicate when you’re not interested. Idenifying how you treat your family will help you identify your baseline habit. Chances are, if you treat your family this way… you might just treat a teacher or a coach this way and although it’s not our desire, disinterest can feel like disrespect.
- How can you change your habit with your family? Doing this with the people you are most comfortable with will only help you when you encounter this feeling outside of the home, but don’t want your “home habit” to show.
- Try to listen to find aspects of the conversation that interest you and ask questions to learn more or engage in whatever they are saying… even if it’s THE MOST BORING topic you can imagine. Yes, even then!
Family Dinner Table Talk Questions / Conversation Starters:
- Have Each Family Member share a story from the day or even a favorite moment of his / her life. Take turns telling them what you heard and learned from what they had to say!
Looking for an easy way to have your teens feel productive during the day? Here’s our Ten-a-Day sheet that teens can fill out. This chart includes five blank spots that your teen can fill in and five family responsibility “nudges” pre-written in to help give teens ownership and independence during these days that seem to run together… oy vey!
Printable: Leadership Academy 10 a Day
HERE’S WHAT WE HAVE COMING UP IN THE NEXT 30 DAYS…