Truth of the Manner…

by Mindy Lockard on July 19, 2010


Do you remember the game “telephone”?

You know the one where a group sits in a circle, one person starts by whispering in another’s ear, the information is carried from one person to another, until the last person says the information out loud and most of the time the original information has become distorted over the course of the game.

This can happen in real life and with the purest of intentions and from just one conversation.

Elle: (to her friend Charlie) Did you know my Papa is a wedding singer?

Charlie: He is?

Elle: Yep, and he sang for the President.

Me: Actually he is a country dancer and danced at the White House.

Elle: Oh yeah, he’s a dancer and danced for the President.

Me: No not for the President, just at the White House.

Elle: But mom you said…

Me: What I said was he danced at the White House.

Elle: Oh I guess not for the President. The President was out of town.

Me: hmmm… I don’t know that the President was out of town. Do you know that to be true?

Elle: no, not exactly.

Sometimes it can be so easy to share information as factual but not exactly have all of the facts. Even if our intention isn’t to be dishonest, it’s important to remember that partial truth isn’t necessarily THE truth.

As my mother always said, “Your word is your honor” and honorable words are Gracious Living.

Although it can be hard, do you promise to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth?  Or is it really that important?  Talk to me?

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Preppy 101 07.19.10 at 8:45 am

Yes, I believe it is still important. I only do otherwise to save someone’s heart and feelings, but then I won’t lie; I’ll just say nothing. The frustrating thing for those of us who do tell the truth is to be telling the truth and find that someone doesn’t believe us!! Whew. How frustrating cause when it’s the truth, you can’t come up with another story 😉 cause you’re telling the only story! haha xoxo
Re: your daughter’s convo – this is why it’s so interesting to teach kindergarten from what I’ve heard – the stories the children bring to school. Hilarious!

KarenEugene 07.19.10 at 10:16 am

“Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.” (Sir Walter Scott)

Amy Stevens 07.19.10 at 10:20 am

Reminds me of that Mark Twain quote, “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” I agree it’s so important to always be truthful. Although, I’ll also confess I’m guilty of softening the truth at times so I don’t hurt someone’s feelings. However, I love the idea that your word is your honor. So important to ingrain that in our children at a young age. Especially when words are flung around so haphazardly on Facebook. cell phones, Twitter, etc!

Mindy Lockard 07.19.10 at 11:15 am

I’m loving these! I couldn’t agree more with Mr. Twain and Sir Walter Scott, wise men, telling the truth simply makes our social encounters easier. And Ms. Preppy 101, it’s a habit that starts early with only the purest intentions. What a gift we give our children to start out with strong honest social skills.

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