Thumbing through my question and answer archive I came across this question from one of my favorite event planners. As many of my ManneroftheMonth.com industry members do, she asked a question on behalf of one of her brides. With wedding season just around the corner, now is the perfect time to brush up on our wedding manners. Brides this one is for you… or anyone looking for a shortcut to a stack of thank-you notes.
Q: We have a client who asked if it’s okay to send thank yous and address the envelope with a label. The bride really wants to use labels and hopes this isn’t a terrible thing to do in terms of etiquette. What are your thoughts on this?
A: I understand the thought process of your bride and why she is eager to use labels…My recommendation is that labels are for commercial use or mass mailings and should not be used on wedding stationary. A thank-you note is a bride‘s token of appreciation for the generosity and time of her guests. A single guest will not see the pile of envelopes that the bride sees; he or she only sees the envelope in his or her mail-box. A handwritten envelope – even though it takes more time – nonverbally communicates gratitude with a personal touch.
I know this is not necessarily the answer she was looking for. I can only imagine the time and energy this bride has spent on planning the wedding—she will not regret taking a few additional moments making the final step a lovely one.
The Bride’s Thank you Guide – Thank-you Writing Made Easy by Pamela A. Piljac is a great resource!