A Modern Gentleman…
knows the difference in confidence and arrogance.
- is mindful of technology and doesn’t insult the intelligence of the people sitting with him by trying to hide the fact that he’s checking e-mail and text under the table. He knows it can wait!
- shows respect equally. For example he holds the door open for others, and understands it’s okay to let others go ahead of him.
- knows that making eye-contact with everyone is the foundation of showing respect.
- keeps his suit jacket on. A true gentleman is willing to be a little uncomfortable for the sake of a respectably, polished appearance. When sitting down unbutton the bottom buttons for comfort.
Later that evening as I was getting ready for a night at the Symphony with Ty, I still had chivalry on my mind…
Me: I’m thinking you should pick me up for our date.
Ty: Do you want me to drive around the block?
Ty: How about I go out the side door and knock on the front door.
Me: It’s a start.
Just then Ty’s dad (our sitter for the evening) arrived at the front door. The expression on Ty’s face told me he wasn’t about to “pretend” to pick me up infront of his father. I returned a disappointed expression that was one eye-bat short of appearing to have something in my eye – after 11 years of marriage it’s amazing how much communication can take place with facial expressions.
Feeling a bit let down I decided to return to my room to finish getting ready when the doorbell rang…
Me: Maggie, Will you please get the door?
Maggie: Oh, hi Daddy?
My heart actually skipped a beat.
Ty: Hello, I’m here to pick-up Mindy Lockard.
Maggie: Giggling… You are?! Mommy, Daddy is here to pick you up.
Just then Elle, who had been engrossed in a movie, popped up from the sofa…
Elle: Dad what are you doing?
Ty: I’m picking up Mommy for our date!
This act of chivalry was not only entertaining for our daughters it was a simple reminder of how the little things make a difference. Our evening at the Symphony was the best night-out we’ve had in a long time and it all started with a sweet gesture from a modern day gentleman!
Tell us what you think makes a modern gentleman.